Husband/Wife Roles

We are convinced that you will not be able to raise your children to be the blessings they are called to be until both the husband and wife understand their roles and take action on it. Carrie and I are no where close to having this perfect nor do we think that we have arrived at some maturity level that makes us experts in this arena. However, based on Titus Chapter 2, we have a responsiblity to mentor other men and women in the areas that we, in our 15 years of marriage, have learned along the way that has truly made an impact like nothing this world could compare to.

If you are new to what the Bible has to say about Husband/Wife Roles, then I invite you to begin with Ephesians Chapter 5:22-33

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (ESV)

Husbands, it's vitally important for your relationship with your wife and your children that you get this right. It doesn't matter how you feel or what the world says, you will be responsible to Almighty God one day for how you have done in these areas. Wives, it's just as important for you and your children that you also get your role right on. Remember both of you, that on Judgement day, there will be no second chances.

Husbands, you need to get a grip on what it truly means to "love your wife, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her".Wives, you need to come to terms with words like submit and respect. When both parties learn to put these "codes of conduct" to work in their homes, it will revolutionize your marriage, your household, and people will take notice. You may seem strange to your friends, but you will seem obedient to God.